Have you ever felt inadequate? Unfit to fill a position at work?
Unable to accept compliments and praise?
Are you selling yourself short? Trying to justify everything you do? Do you feel like you need to put on an act in order to be accepted?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, chances are you’re struggling with low self-esteem.
Why should this concern you?
YOUR SELF-ESTEEM IS YOUR LIFE’S FOUNDATION.
It determines how you perceive and think about yourself. It dictates what you’re feeling, what you’re capable of, and what and who you’re able to attract in your life.
SELF-ESTEEM IS NOT EVERYTHING, BUT WITHOUT IT, EVERYTHING IS NOTHING.
Over the years I’ve encountered the opinion that self-esteem is a bad thing.
That people with high self-esteem are full of themselves, arrogant, often narcissists, and that some people may just have too much self-esteem. Really?
No. There is no such thing as too much self-esteem. Not the way we define self-esteem at FEEL DIFFERENT, and not by its true definition – confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect. In most cases, this opinion is coming from those who are foreign to self-esteem. Who deem it as “fake” behavior because “no one can be that sure of themselves.”
Cockiness and arrogance, on the other hand, are typical tactics to distract and divert the attention from one who may be feeling inferior. A behavior that may also stem from trying to compensate for one’s lack of a certain quality, or a response to intimidation. All are clear symptoms of low self-esteem.
SO WHY SHOULD YOU CARE ABOUT SELF-ESTEEM?
Because self-esteem is power. Literally.
As long as you don’t have it, or very little of it, your life can be a tragic mess.
A seemingly endless series of hopeless situations that you cannot escape. This can come with sabotaging yourself, your relationships and your potential for success on every level. And most of it unconsciously.
Working on your self-esteem means quite simply, working on yourself – as a whole. It’s your foundation.
It’s the beginning of you taking control of your life, your vision of your future, your relationships and your successes. It is self-empowerment at the highest level.
Because your self-esteem lays the groundwork for you living your purpose, passion, and power in life, it is the basis for your self-value, self-respect, confidence and self-trust needed for you to truly experience your life as you were meant to.
MOST IMPORTANTLY, IT IS ROOTED IN YOU. YOUR SELF.
It is not based on how others see you, what they think about you or how much anyone may deem you to be worth. It is how much you accept yourself, how much you believe you are worth. And by that definition, you are the one in control. The sole creator of your fate and future self.
Self-esteem is the immune system of your soul, as Nathaniel Branden says.
If you develop a healthy self-esteem, others opinions, words and actions won’t affect how you feel about yourself. You’ll be able to navigate your life and your decisions with surety and confidence and face anything life throws your way.
Self-esteem is a decision. You don’t have to be at the mercy of your emotions and fears. You have a choice about how you feel.
Unfortunately, many people feel like they don’t have a choice. Like they’ve just been dealt a bad hand in life. They’re not one of the “lucky” ones who just seem to win at life effortlessly. You may know this person, it might even be you.
You may have looked for help, taken advice from “experts,” read best selling self-help books, tried coaching, motivational training, therapy, and in the end nothing stuck. At least not long enough to experience any real life changes.
The reason is simply that those methods ignore the most important factor in the equation: your self-esteem.
And while psychology in particular is great for diagnosing your issue, the practices used are unable to help you build real self-esteem and empower you to start leading the life you know you could be living.
It is adamant you understand the crucial role of your self-esteem for your life and start building a new relationship with yourself.
At FEEL DIFFERENT, we have tested and proven methods to help you achieve a healthy relationship with yourself. This starts with you building your self-esteem and becoming confident in living your own life as your true self.
Don’t hesitate to reach out with any questions or comments. I’m happy to help.