If you feel like your life is just drifting by and nothing noteworthy is ever happening, it’s time to change something.
Living a life without purpose or without contributing something to the world will gradually and inevitably break down your self esteem.
Your self esteem and your life’s purpose are linked.
Without working toward your life’s purpose, there will always be something missing. And without healthy self esteem, your confidence and courage to go after what you really want in life will never reach its point of action.
Seems like a catch 22, doesn’t it?
It really isn’t.
By working towards one, you’re naturally working towards the other. If you’re setting out to do something that truly fulfills you, something that serves a bigger purpose outside of just your personal satisfaction, you’ll become more confident. A feeling of pride and self respect arises. At the same time, your pathological inner critic will cease to be at the forefront of your mind telling you how useless you are, how aimless your life is, etc. In turn, your daily inner dialogue will become more supportive and positive.
The fastest way to build self esteem is to work towards your life’s purpose.
To serve a greater good than just pleasing your individual self and to contribute to society as a whole.
Ultimately, we should all be aiming to leave the world (society) a greater place than when we arrived. This is metaphorical for living in your purpose and being a contributor.
The practical side of this is that it gives a bit of perspective and narrows down what the overall “goal” of life is. And by building your self esteem you’ll find that more and more positive things will find their way into your life.
You’ll connect with people who are good for you. People who are in alignment with your goals and your purpose. New opportunities and possibilities will enter your path. It’s the law of attraction where energy attracts energy. In the same way when everything is dark and negative to you internally, this becomes your reality and the people around you, the situations you find yourself in, all reflect this. It really is about your energy and what you focus on.
What if I don’t know what I want or need?
Finding your life’s purpose is not impossible. It’s part of the quest of life. And yes, there is a purpose for you. And for you alone.
We are all born with a purpose.
For some, it comes at an early age and they know it right away. This is a rare but fortunate blessing. For others, it can be a long journey of searching and trying different things which can lead to various phases, trials and tribulations. On one hand, this can be very stressful, difficult and life challenging. On the other hand, through the tenacity and resilience of working through it all, it can give great power and character so that once you’ve found your way, your devotion to it is unwavering.
Your life’s purpose will grant you the energy and mental toughness to stand strong through hard times.
It is more than just finding a good job or a pleasant hobby to keep you busy. It also does not have to be something huge and exotic. But it is most certainly something you can give and contribute that no one else can do quite like you do it.
To fully open yourself to your life’s purpose, the root is in your self esteem. This is where your foundation lies. It’s where true confidence stems from. And it’s a necessity to living a fulfilled life. One that allows you to fully embrace your life’s purpose, recognize the power in it, and devote yourself to it as the leader of your own fate.
At Feel Different we specialized in teaching how to build self esteem and confidence on a very deep and fundamental level.
If you are in a place where you know you need to make some real life changes and pull yourself out of the darkness of everyday life, we have the tools you need.
All the best,